“What topics should I chat about when a girl comes out on a first date?” , in the previous article, we emphasized that the focus of chatting is not the topic, the topic is just the carrier of chatting.
Maybe some guys will ask in return, even if the topic is not as important as imagined, then it still at least has a carrier meaning, it is also necessary to learn and collect some, right?
God has always emphasized that if a boy, not extreme natural social fear, rarely communicate with people, or usually do not contact with people, but also in the category of normal people, there is no need to deliberately accumulate topics, because in the view of the gods, an ordinary person, live for 20-30 years, their own life in the accumulation of the topic has been enough enough to use, do not need to waste time and energy intentionally to supplement the topic.
For example, the following topics are often involved in male and female students’ chats:
Weather
Food
Music
Pets
Hometown
Photography
School
Work
These topics, including the extension of these topics, for a normal boy, should be able to come up with, such as talking about music, you always have some of their own often listen to or like to listen to music, such as food, you always have their own favorite food, right.
For many guys, there is no need to replenish their stock of topics, it’s already enough.
Many guys always have a kind of misjudgment, think that they chat with girls is not good because they do not have enough topic reserves, in fact, these are very wrong ideas.
In the camp organized by the gods, basically did not see which students chat effect is not good because of their own topic reserve is not enough, the problem is actually out in other areas, such as we spoke before, chat skills with the in place, resulting in chatting are dry chat topic, do not talk about the emotions, raw cut topic.
When a boy’s chat ability is not enough, dry chat topics, chat is a running gag when the topic reserves more boys, the topic also seems to be not enough, and when a boy’s chat ability is enough, know how to use the skills to express their emotions, there are a few topics can be chatted to the sky and the earth.
Chatting effect is not good, not because of the topic is not enough, chatting effect is good, also not because of the topic reserve how rich.
Take a step back, when we really encounter some cold topics, such as fortune-telling, such as Korean dramas, this time do not understand to ask, appropriate to ask some questions, so that the girl more to talk about, you echo the emotions through the chat will be enough.
Most of the boys are in the category of ordinary people, is essentially an ordinary person, there is no need to chat with the girls seem to know everything, you and girls are not teachers and students lecture, but mutual communication, some topics you do not know, let the girls talk more, some topics girls do not know, the boys will talk more, this is the normal communication process.
If a chat, boys rack their brains, have to make themselves seem omniscient, have to girls speak of each point can be gushing, that itself this chat mentality has been out of balance, you are too much want to chat chat well, breaking the chat easy feeling, you have a problem with the mind, how you chat is not right, are licking the dog’s chat only.
Therefore, the gods have always emphasized to the participants in the training camps I organize, there is no need to purposely add topics in order to pursue girls.
Topics are naturally accumulated from our lives, if you are a boy who is attentive in life, your topic reserve is enough to build a good communication with girls, rather than in order to pursue girls to deliberately add some topics to please the girls, which is completely the cart before the horse.
So, for the boys, your topic reserve is enough to use, do not need to worry at all What is important is that your mindset should be correct, stable, balanced and natural.