Accumulating topics and feelings on a daily basis requires self-construction
Topics are not intentionally stocked, but are naturally accumulated when living a serious life.
So on the flip side, if a guy wants to have enough or more topics in reserve when talking to girls, the point is to live your own life.
So that you can meet girls, accumulate enough topics, more importantly, for these topics carrier, you have a wealth of feelings, that is, emotions, so that you can chat with the girls when the texture, feeling, the formation of a large number of emotional resonance.
Taking life seriously and experiencing it, in practical relationship science, is really all about self-construction, the content of self-construction techniques.
Self-construction involves a lot of points, here is only a list of common self-construction, of course, these self-construction points, here only as a reference, because each of us has a different life, different environment, different personal planning, self-construction can not be the same and the same theory, everyone should actually have their own special self-construction.
Next, I will talk about some common basic points, just for reference.
1, shape
Appearance, in fact, is the management of the image we mentioned before, daily good image management, naturally will have a better image on the first date, will increase the effect of the first date.
Girls on the scoring of boys, definitely not like boys on the scoring of girls, face value is an absolute factor, accounting for the vast majority of the proportion.
This difference in scoring ratio leads to the fact that guys are also not mainly handsome in appearance, unlike girls who are mainly beautiful.
If you are good-looking, very handsome, you will naturally have a great probability of chasing girls, if you are like the gods, is an ordinary people, not particularly handsome, not ugly, then you slightly dress up enough.
For boys, it is important that your appearance does not make girls resentful, so that girls feel that you have the spirit.
The appearance of the boy should give a kind of spiritual feeling, so that the most can make the girl feel comfortable, feel bright.
Your have spirit, give girls the most intuitive feeling is that you are potential, you are focused on life, you are positive.
This kind of appearance to bring the quality aspect of the feeling, is the boys building appearance need to pay attention to points, is the key to image management.
1) Beard
Boys must be clean shaven, the sense of age with a beard and without a beard is different, some people will feel a difference of ten years.
Although some girls like uncle, but does not mean to make boys show old, but a mature uncle level temperament, boys do not get it wrong.
2) Nails
Boys must cut nails, nails too long will make people have a kind of not love clean feeling, especially a lot of boys have dirt in the nails, it affects the personal image.
3) Jewelry
Try to bring as little jewelry as possible, for boys, jewelry with the main concise, in the watch or glasses frame work is enough.
Don’t decorate yourself too much, even particularly weird decorations, such as inlaid nose rings.
As a normal person, you can be super personalized, but if you intend to find a normal point of the girl in a relationship, your image should not be too exaggerated, for ordinary girls, most of them can not accept the weirdness of the boys.
4) Tattoos
Do not show very obvious signs of tattoos, if you are a gangster, just pretend that the gods did not say.
5) Hairstyle
Boys hair should be shaved short, not too long, long makes it look sloppy.
At least grab a hairstyle out yourself with hair wax, if you have the means, have your hairstylist blow-dry a classic hairstyle, it doesn’t cost much.
6) Face
Boys’ faces should be cleaned and not look particularly rough.
If the boys face is particularly rough, then usually have to pay attention to skin care, girls see you at a glance, found that you are full of coarse pores, then her impression of you will be greatly reduced.
If the skin care, boys had better find some good skin care products, do not directly save energy to buy from the supermarket, at least the gods never go to the supermarket to pick skin care products.
Skincare for boys, face wash, face oil is a must, if the conditions, also give yourself two times a week to do hydration mask, in the weather dry north, hydration is especially moisturizing your skin.
If then conditions, you can add a day cream, now many day cream inside the sunscreen ingredients, in addition to the day cream will also be a certain degree to make your skin color appears white.
Well, this is enough, if you are an ordinary person, not a fashionista, do not add other things, such as foundation, eyebrow painting and so on.
It is not necessary at all for a common man to add these and it can even give a girl a very weird look.
7) Dressing
Boys’ collocation must be simple and distinctive, the whole body should never be more than three colors, too much color looks fancy, fancy feels not stable enough.
Black, white and gray are common classic colors, how to match will not be wrong.
It is best not to come up to wear a suit, it seems too formal, this formal will actually break the [sense of ease].
The general equipment of the gods is jeans with a shirt.
Shoes gods like to wear high state leather shoes, so that people appear to be more slender, of course, if you are not accustomed to, wear their favorite travel shoes can also be, but also is not to look fancy.
The whole body must have a bright spot, the bright spot can be a sleeve stud on your shirt, your eyeglasses frame, or a watch you bring.
8) Physique
The body of the boy must first pass, for boys, before you have a girlfriend, never give up body management.
Absolutely not fat, not fat, not fat!
Important thing to say three times, fat will make all your elaborate outfits deformed, let you lose the texture.
Fat itself is no original sin, but when you are fat to chase girls, that is your sin.
Of course many girls will say that they like guys with a little bit of meat, but this kind of meatiness is definitely not the kind of meatiness that your poop belly gives her.
For a pursuing guy, before you have a girlfriend, often go to the gym or the park to build a body is the basic operation, you do not have a girlfriend before you are not qualified to put on weight.
You do not necessarily all over the body is muscle mass, but you figure at least not bloated, your whole body of a large abdominal muscles at least not too big, too obvious.
Also guys should walk with a straight chest and not look hunched over.
Eyes should be sincere, do not look lewd, many boys and girls dating like to glance around, eyes fluttering, which gives girls the feeling of very unsteady.
Boys should focus, eyes as wide as possible.
2, traveling
Boys to travel more, travel can make a boy experience more, more sense, temperament change, for boys to pursue the most direct help for girls, is the first date in the body language expression enhancement and communication process.
The more experience a person has, the broader the field of vision, the more confident and more natural when facing people.
Traveling is something that can make a guy’s vision become broader and his mind become bigger. Traveling can make a guy and a girl on a first date more confident and more natural, that is, express better body language.
At the same time, another benefit of traveling, is that it can add to the effect of chatting, because the more a person likes to travel, the more sense of life, the more intense and rich emotions, naturally, in the use of 【Talking about feelings skills】and girls dating and chatting, the more you can form emotional resonance, warming up the feelings.
And girls to try to talk about feelings, feelings are emotions, only more talk about feelings, more emotions, in order to cause girls to express their emotions desire, and ultimately and girls in the emotions of emotional resonance.
And resonance, is precisely the key to warming up the feelings of men and women.
Why do girls feel comfortable with him in the process of getting along with boys, very happy, very dependent?
The root of everything is that the boy has a lot of emotional resonance with the girl, so that the girl feels matched with the boy, chatting.
Traveling will give guys the capital to talk about their feelings and express their emotions better.
You really have been to the place, really experienced, you will have more feelings, more details, express feelings more image.
You have been to a place, and you have not been to a place, although you can talk about feelings, but you are in the real scene of the real feelings that happen to give people the feeling of a more three-dimensional, more emotional, and thus also more attractive to girls, and more can cause the girls emotional desire to express.
Boys must go out more, especially when you do not have a girlfriend, more free time, more should go out to play, do not stay at home, house to rust.
3，Read books
In your free time, did not go out to play time, just calm down, read more books.
Each read a book, you will indirectly experience the author’s life again, you also have more sense of life and feelings.
Don’t always look for people to recommend books, other people recommend books, that is other people want to see the life, not you want to see the life.
If you don’t know which book you want to read, go to the bookstore and pick one at random.
Reading a book is the same as chasing a girl, keep it light, life is supposed to be more relaxing, don’t always read the kind of books that everyone highly recommends.
Don’t be sold anxiety while reading, don’t everyone reads the same book, people become the same, the feeling becomes the same.
You are you, not the same fireworks, read the book to follow your heart.
4, talent
Talent has a strong strengthening effect on the boys’ image management, body language expression and chatting effect.
If you have formed some talents in your previous life, then stick to it.
Some of the talents of boys will be very plus points in the process of getting along with girls, and even form a fatal attraction.
But talent is also the same, do not have to be the same, not that talk about talent is to talk about the guitar, is a high song.
Talent is various, you need to dig your own corners, in the time with the girl, to show it naturally.
For example, the gods, nothing particularly obvious talent, is to write prose than others strong point, occasionally write prose, others will be surprised that you write a good article Oh, this is enough.
If you really do not have talent, then forget it, for ordinary people, talent is not essential, do not go deliberately form talent.
For example, if you don’t know how to play the guitar before, you have to learn it, like a fly on the wall, you want to practice every aspect, you want to become a talent, and you end up not knowing any of them.
If you like it, try it, if you don’t like it, don’t waste your time.
For ordinary people, no talent, the same can chase the girl, and do not be too envious of people with talent.
5，Work
In relationship science, work is a very important part of the material conditions, the importance of the degree of self-evident.
Your work, first of all, is the root of your life, is their own should do things, and not directly for a relationship to do.
It is just that when we do our own work well, when we meet a favorite girl, it happens to be able to support us to have a good material condition, can at least in the material level to give girls a basic sense of security.
You work well, make more money, these are very realistic problems, as an ordinary person, you can not reach the point of financial freedom, but you at least mind positive.
Cherish your work, be grateful for your current work, so that you can self-growth, continue to improve their quality of life, continue to improve their attractiveness.
For work, don’t count your salary every day, don’t fish for three days, and quit when you say quit.
Roundup:
Boys “the first time to ask a girl out should chat about what topics?” , should first be to understand that the key points of the first date in addition to the effect of chatting, there are key points such as the pavement before the date, the management of the image, the expression of body language, the accumulation of material conditions.
And when chatting with girls, chatting is not really a topic, the topic is just a carrier, chatting is really chatting about the emotions, is the three views, enhance the emotional resonance is the key to chatting good results.
If a boy wants to chat well, and girls chat chat feeling, from the basic level, we must learn to use chat skills, rather than to deliberately reserve topics.
The real topic reserve, should be our daily life has been accumulated, is the self-construction reached, there is no need to deliberately add.