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We all have strange preferences when choosing a significant other, such as: having nice fingers, having long and thin legs, wearing a nice watch, wearing a white shirt ……
My friend, Maria, describes every boyfriend she’s ever had with this one word: well behaved.
These “good” boys like to repeat their lives with no surprises, have few hobbies and not many close friends; they don’t know how to talk to girls, and they don’t even know how to coax their girlfriends.
How good is Maria’s boyfriend at coaxing girls? One day, she asked him to watch a movie after work, and specially bought a movie ticket for three hours after work.
When Maria was waiting in the movie theater, her boyfriend’s chat reply stopped at the sentence: “I have to work a little longer.”
Finally, the movie started her boyfriend still did not come, she sadly threw away the movie ticket home.
After her boyfriend came back from work, Maria didn’t want to argue, so she didn’t bring up the matter of the movie ticket again, and handily shared the interesting events of the day, who knew that her boyfriend not only didn’t apologize, but also silently replied back with the sentence, “You’ve got a lot of drama.”
Maria finally couldn’t help but argue with him. Her boyfriend felt that the other party was being unreasonable, while she felt that the other party didn’t put herself at ease.
In fact, her boyfriend is not not enough to like her, just, the way he loves is not what she wants.
He only knows in Maria sad silent accompanied by the side, but do not understand, Maria more want, is a word of sorry and his warm embrace.
02
Have you ever thought about what kind of person is suitable for you?
Maria is a very cheerful, talkative and romantic girl.
After every breakup, she swore that she would never find such a boring guy again. But the next time, still fall for the same type of guy.
Time and time again, we may fall for someone who doesn’t seem right for us, or even someone we know is wrong.
This obsession, perhaps stemming from an unwillingness to figure out why relationships fail and not knowing what kind of person is right for you, leads to stepping into the same river over and over again.
It is often said that two different people are suitable for each other because they can complement each other. For example, the calmness in the introvert will give the extrovert a sense of security and make a good listener.
However, He inwardly craves the ups and downs of life and has too little tolerance for repetitive, monotonous people and things.
Introverts, on the other hand, need a lot of time and space to spend with themselves, so two people who aren’t the same aren’t necessarily suited to be together.
Finding a good fit is more important than anything else.