When we are young, we love the “good” side of a person, but we have a hard time accepting the “bad” side, and we want to do our best to get rid of the “bad” side. But if we could really get rid of the “bad” side, I’m afraid the person would have to be split in two, which is scary to think about – we can’t do that, and we can’t do that. It’s an inner conflict of wanting and not wanting, and ultimately you have to make a decision between the two. And mature love, which is all-accepting, wanting to do integration with what you don’t want, is not easy to do, and this ability is something that needs to be acquired. There has to be something to put up with and something to tolerate in order for the two of you to move on. If you’re looking for problems – there are plenty of problems to look for. He is probably depressed, quite a lot. It’s normal that you can’t take on so many emotions, it’s normal that comfort and encouragement don’t work, and it’s normal that you have thoughts of giving up – after all, draining yourself all the time will trap you. But there is more than one way – you don’t have to be on your own to help him, you can use the power of the outside world. Whenever he communicates with his family, it’s as if the essence has been sucked out of him, and he’s left with only negative energy. I guess there’s some trauma that he hasn’t dealt with yet, and he doesn’t have the strength to defend himself against it or dissolve the effects of it. We can take him to see a psychiatrist, so that the psychiatrist can help him to adjust this state. You only need to accompany him to witness the process, need to know a little knowledge. He himself is very good to you, this is a very good thing, of course you can choose to self-preservation, there is no excuse. It’s just that …… you’re leaving …… he’s probably going to be even more depressed. Maybe that would have been the life issue he had to deal with – finding a good enough object. This world want to find a good object, form a good object relationship is really not easy, wish him after you give up can meet a as far as possible to accommodate him to accept his girl it ……