Many men and women have ambiguous relationships, often there is no sense of proportion in words and behavior, resulting in crossing the line.
This kind of men and women, usually like to get tired together, chatting about inappropriate topics, it is easy to breed ambiguous feelings.
They either chat about emotional aspects, or make ambiguous jokes with each other, but also in the name of friendship, constant contact, the relationship is hardly pure.
In fact, a lot of ambiguous relationship, are inadvertently happen.
In reality, the beginning of many ambiguous stories are hidden in those daily and extraordinary conversations, very realistic.
In the end, the ambiguity between men and women, mostly from the beginning of the chat, don’t believe it.
First, talk about gender topics
Gender topics, for both men and women, is a sensitive and full of attractive topics.
When men and women know each other, with the deepening of the relationship, their conversation may be involved in this field.
As a result, when two people are chatting, they will invariably cross the boundaries of ordinary friends, produce ambiguous ideas, and even intend to develop ambiguous relationships.
For example, men and women often chat, may talk about the topic of “ideal half”.
At this time, the man may be half jokingly said: “I like independent and a little confused girl, both compatible and interesting.”
The woman may respond in a slightly teasing tone, “Aren’t you talking about me? I’m just right eh.”
Conversations like these are ostensibly two people talking about the ideal partner, but they are actually testing each other’s emotional boundaries to see if a relationship can develop.
Then again, men and women may also talk about inappropriate content that involves emotional needs, as well as things between a man and a woman, which are signs of boundary crossing.
As the conversation progresses, they may discuss things like the balance of power in a gender relationship, communication styles, and ways to build a deeper relationship.
In this process, men and women are careful to test the waters, eager to find each other’s emotional resonance point, once the time is ripe, may occur ambiguous relationship.
Second, talk about emotional experience
Regardless of men and women, emotional experience, are their privacy, the general public is not likely to touch.
However, some men and women are different, they are together most like to talk about the emotional experience, will also be prying each other’s privacy and secrets.
When they are dating, both of them like to share their past love stories, emotional entanglements with their exes, and heartbreaking moments, etc.
They are both pouring their hearts out and seeking an emotional resonance and comfort, and the fact that both parties are opening up to each other shows that the relationship is not simple.
For example, a woman may summon the courage to tell a man about the failure of her last relationship and the hurt and growth it brought to her, longing for someone to care and nurture.
The man, on the other hand, usually listens with a gentle and patient attitude, occasionally inserting a few words of comfort or empathy, allowing the woman to feel unprecedented understanding and support.
It is this kind of communication, so that the two originally lonely heart gradually close to each other, each other became a light in each other’s hearts, the relationship naturally close.
At the same time, men and women share their own emotional experiences, but also inadvertently show their own emotional needs and mate selection criteria.
For example, a person who frequently mentions his ex’s lack of responsibility and communication skills may subconsciously desire to find a partner who can give him a sense of security and stability.
Messages like these are important clues for the other partner to understand the other person and adjust his or her behavior, making it easy to build a relationship.
But all men and women often share emotional experiences, will establish a “community of love destiny” feeling, this emotional connection, is the deepening of the ambiguous relationship, it is difficult to avoid.
Third, open ambiguous jokes
Men and women in the process of dating, appropriate jokes, not only can adjust the atmosphere, but also make the relationship closer.
However, once the ambiguous jokes more, it is possible for men and women to lose the sense of proportion, leading to the relationship to ambiguous.
For example, when meeting separately at a certain time, the man joked, “If only I could be with you every day and be so happy.”
At this point, the woman may playfully say, “Then you have to work hard to make me smile so brightly every day oh.”
This kind of conversation, which appears to be a joke on the surface, actually contains emotions that go far beyond a joke.
They are testing each other in a lighthearted way to see if they are willing to carry this joy into the future, which would be whether or not they expect more from each other’s relationship.
Moreover, ambiguous jokes, often accompanied by subtle eye contact and body language, can easily deepen the emotional concentration of the words.
For example, when two people chat, their eyes are full of tenderness and deep love, and the atmosphere of adoration is very strong.
Another example, the two sides chat to a certain extent, produced a stronger attraction, it is likely to be close to each other, with physical contact, it is easier to let the relationship cross the line.
It can be said that both men and women can feel a kind of attraction beyond friendship in ambiguous jokes, but maintain a kind of iffy beauty, so that people can’t stop.