Men and women chat, the key point is not in the pile of topics, the topic is just a carrier, the important thing is to form emotional resonance.
But how to better form emotional resonance? This is back to the skill level.
In relationship science, the ultimate goal of all the chat skills are to better form emotional resonance, in the god summarized the theory of the love of the wind and fire wheel, emotional resonance is one of the eight principles of love, and sixteen love skills is based on the principle of love a landing measures.
Separately from the chat point of view to dismantle speak, that is, all the chat skills is to meet the principle of emotional resonance, chat skills is for men and women to produce more emotional resonance chat more ways and means.
A lot of guys will think that chatting skills is a kind of routine, is a kind of insincere means to girls, this is actually a very immature and white idea, the reason is that they are simply only concerned about the chatting skills itself, simply do not understand where these chatting skills come from, what is the purpose.
In the god summary of the theory of love wind and fire wheel, there are a lot of chatting skills, which the most commonly used chatting skills are 4, respectively, keyword skills, talk about feelings skills, scenario skills, interconnection skills.
1, keyword skills -hearing
Keyword skills have always been considered by the gods as the most important skills in relationship science, and are honored by the gods as the leading brother in relationship skills.
Keyword skills, that is, boys based on the content of the girl’s reply, to identify the real key, effective information in the content of their feedback, to identify the real expression of their emotions.
This ability to recognize, if in a face-to-face chat, is actually the ability to listen to the girl’s speech.
For any communication, the ability to listen is very important, if you want to have a good communication with others, naturally the first thing to listen carefully to what the other side said, the other side of the words is to express what emotions, only to listen to the other side of the words, you can communicate effectively with each other, in order to grasp the emotions, and ultimately the formation of emotional resonance.
When we recognize the real effective girls want to express the information and emotions, we can follow this effective information and emotions, continue to chat, in order to match the other skills, so that our chat in the most effective emotional pulse, so that the girls most comfortable, the most want to express the pulse, the maximum continuation of the extension, the expansion of the expression of emotions, to maximize the chat to produce more emotional resonance, so that the chat becomes More interesting, interesting, emotional.
For example, a girl speaking:
Girl: How did you become so sweet
If a boy does not listen carefully to the words of the girl, just fall into the world of self chat, often will show a self-talking type of answer:
Boy: It’s okay, I’m not very sweet.
Men and women chatting, will naturally be this kind of not listen carefully to the girl’s speech answer, directly strangled, the girl can only reply:
Girl: Okay.
A chat that should be exchanged freely, so abruptly ended, this time the boys will naturally give the girls a special will not chat feeling.
The problem with this chat, in fact, is that the boys did not listen carefully, look carefully at the girls reply content in the effective information, that is, keywords.
The keyword in the girl’s reply is “sweet”, which expresses a sweet emotion. But the boy’s reply, the expression of the meaning of “not sweet”, this is the opposite of the expression of emotions, will seriously damage the smoothness of the chat, and ultimately let the topic end.
If a guy recognizes that a girl’s real keyword is “sweet”, then he will have a thousand answers, all of which are unlikely to be as ineffective as the previous answer.
For example:
Guy: Because you’re a bee and you’ve discovered my sweetness!
Here, the boy really grasps the keyword “sweet”, really learns to “listen” to the girl’s speech, and understands the real meaning of the girl’s speech. The emotions of the girl’s speech. So the boy’s reply, naturally, echoed the “sweet” this keyword, and then the emotional resonance, to the girl to create a kind of chat, you will chat the feeling of special.
2, scene skills -imagination
When we understand other people’s words, we have to start to use our other force, which is imagination.
Chatting is easy and pleasant, is a kind of gossip, is no boundary, the richer your imagination, the more vast your chat, the emotional expression on the more comfortable, the more interesting, the girl will be more and more chat with you.
Imagination in relationship science, in fact, is the ability to recall, fantasy, outline the scene in the boy’s mind, that is, scenario skills.
A really good, full of interesting emotions of communication, must be chatting scene constantly transformed, this scene is not a boy and girl in the real time and space of the scene, but the two people’s language interaction, the formation of an imaginary, but may have been real, or future expectations, the virtual world of the spirit of the scene.
A chat, because of your scene, become suddenly interesting, no longer seem dry, that is to say, a good language scene, will make your chat quality greatly improved, so that the girls feel and you chat in the emotional feel especially interesting, and even can’t stop, the more you say the more energized, and finally you can’t plug in, the girls have been in the barabbas.
For example, the case we just talked about:
Girl: how did you become so sweet
Boy: Because you’re a little bee and have discovered my sweetness!
When the boy used his “hearing” to recognize that the girl’s keyword was “sweet”, he began to use his imagination to imagine a scene about sweetness, and the scene that the boy ultimately imagined was a scene of “bees collecting honey”. The final scene that the boy imagines is “bees picking honey”.
The appearance of this “bees picking honey” scene immediately makes the chat between boys and girls become relaxed, mischievous and interesting, and the boys also make use of the “bees picking honey” scene in the chat to carry out interesting emotional play.
This kind of chat by the interesting scene, is very capable of inducing girls chat desire, when the girls chat desire to be mobilized, she will naturally be a steady stream of independent expressive emotions, and will be a steady stream of such emotional reasons, attributed to the boys, attributed to the boys special will chat.
For example, girls will easily respond to the words of boys:
Girl: Hahaha, I’m a little bee, buzzing
Girl: So what kind of flower are you?
Imagination, will greatly induce the girl’s emotional expression of desire, play imagination, let our chat become sky high, you will become more and more interesting, more and more will chat.
3, talk about feelings skills -emotional power
As we have said before, keyword skills is the leading brother of all the chat skills in the science of love, when the boys in the recognition of the key information of the girl’s reply, in addition to play the imagination, you can also play directly to the emotional force, of course, if the imagination and emotional class together to play better.
In layman’s terms, when chatting with girls, the leading brother keyword skills first, other skills as a little brother to watch on, or swarming.
Emotional power in love science, is the ability to express emotions, express feelings, this is to talk about feelings skills.
Male and female students chat, really let each other’s feelings warm up the key, is the emotional resonance, and talk about feelings, is precisely a kind of emotional lyricism, and the expression of this emotion, is the most able to cause the girls emotional lyricism desire, but also the most in a period of chatting, the formation of male and female students between the resonance of emotions.
Why many girls will feel and boys especially chat, is because of their chat, produced a lot of emotional resonance, like two confidants, the same emotions, always in the exchange of constant collision, resonance, resonance, and ultimately let the feelings of the rapid warming.
For example, the case just now:
Girl: So what kind of flower are you?
Boy: I’m popcorn, snoozy and sweet!
Girl: Haha, popcorn is delicious!
The boy here recognized the key information of the girl’s reply [hearing], imagined another “eating popcorn” scene [imagination], expressed the strong feeling of “snooze”, that is, the emotion [emotional power], this combination of expression, it is very easy to inspire This combination of expressions will easily stimulate girls’ feelings. This combination of expressions will easily stimulate the girl’s feelings, allowing the girl to express her emotions naturally, without being forced.
The emotion expressed by the girl here is “delicious”, and the two emotions of “delicious” and “sweet” have already begun to form a resonance between boys and girls, and the girl will have a strong feeling that the boy across from her is especially delicious. The girl will have a strong feeling that the boy across the street is particularly good at chatting.
4, interconnection skills-viscous
If a boy for chatting still want to excel, so that you and girls chat more comfortable, more happy, more explosive, more inspired by the feelings, it is necessary to understand the viscous force.
Stickiness is your ability to stick to a girl’s emotions, just like Kunimitsu Tezuka’s Tezuka field in the Prince of Tennis, which always has a kind of magic power to make every tennis ball that is hit by the opponent return to Tezuka’s position.
Stickiness, in relationship science, lands as an executable skill, the interconnection skill.
Interconnection skills is to talk about a boy in the chat with the girl, must pull the girl in, to form the two people chat interaction, from the original each lyric, the formation of scattered resonance, become further, the formation of a large scene, a large range of forms of natural intertwined in the huge emotional resonance group.
At this time, you no matter how to speak, as long as it is not cold negate girls, will naturally form countless emotional resonance.
For example, the case previously mentioned:
Girl: Haha, popcorn is delicious!
Boy: Yes, I hope you are a cup of Coke!
Girl: Why?
Boys: Because then we would be a perfect combination
Boy: If you go to the movie theater and only buy popcorn, you always feel that there is something wrong with it, this time with a cup of coke, it’s perfect all of a sudden!
Girl: hahaha
Girl: You’re too funny
Case “I hope you”, in fact, is the typical use of interconnection skills, literally can be seen in a sentence both “I”, and “you”, directly in the chat to produce a sticky force, the two people will have a good chance to get to know each other. This creates a kind of viscous force directly in the chat, bonding the two people together, forming an interconnection, forming emotional interaction and resonance.
Of course, the “perfect combination” in the case is also a kind of interconnection, although we can’t literally see “I” and “you”, but this “combination” expression is also a kind of interconnection. Although you can’t literally see “I” and “you”, the expression “combination” also bonds two people together.
In this case, the boy adds “hearing”, “imagination” and “emotional power” on top of the original “hearing”, “imagination” and “emotional power”, and uses the “sticky power”. Stickiness”, the use of interconnection skills, so that this already good chat, but also sublimated, the formation of I have you, you have me posture, and even the formation of CP, the combination of feelings.
This kind of I have you, you have me, the expression of the two people linked together, will naturally form a strong viscous force in the two people chat, this kind of interconnection, the form of interaction, in essence, has been a male and female students in the large framework of a large range, large-scale emotional resonance.
When a chat, the formation of interconnection, interaction, the emotional temperature of men and women will be extremely rapid warming, the girl will feel that the boys are really fucking will chat.